The wedding shower I am giving is in 7 days and so far I have received very few responses back. There are two more days before the deadline so I am hopeful I will hear from everyone but I seriously doubt it. I have run into some people that have been invited and point blank asked them if they were going to come. Oh yeah, no not coming. Don't know the bride- to- be that well (although they are somewhat good friends with her parents.) In my day, if I knew the parents well, I would go.
I have given many parties in the past with an RSVP to call. The majority never called or if they did, it was 2 minutes before my party began. I'm sorry but they might as well not have bothered.
That's why for this shower, I sent out response cards because I thought people would actually drop the pre- addressed stamped envelope into their mailbox. Guess that was too much to ask.
There were many times when I have sent gifts and did not receive a thank you in return. I was raised to acknowledge and thank people formally whenever they sent or did something for me. My kids have been taught to do the same.
The use of proper etiquette seems to be a thing of the past. It's like a dying art that seriously needs to be resurrected again.